I came across this today...enjoy
"In society, we have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel. When we believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that we will destroy relationships in order to defend our position. But with clear communication, our word becomes impeccable, and all of our relationships start to change--not only with our partner, but also with everyone else."
The Four Agreements